Delivering feedback can be an intimidating experience. If this is your first time giving this person feedback, you may worry about what might happen. Maybe they'll take it harder than you intended for them to. Maybe they'll react poorly to the feedback. And even if you have given this person feedback before, you may be … Continue reading Feedback is a dance, not a delivery →

Have you ever been in a relationship where a small problem snowballed into a much larger one? You're not alone. This is a widespread pattern. Here are some examples of problems people commonly face in their relationships with partners, friends, coworkers, etc.: You need more personal space. They don't help when you need them. They … Continue reading Why relationship problems persist and what we can do about them →

I started working on my life coaching certification back in June. As of October, I'm now a certified life coach. Since I started working on this path, I've commonly been asked: "What is life coaching?" I'm going to try to explain using an analogy. Suppose you have a camera. One of those fancy ones with a … Continue reading What is life coaching? →

When you live intentionally, you get more of what you want, have more meaningful relationships, and feel more fulfilled. So what's holding you back from being more intentional? Often, it's hard to live intentionally because we spend so much time on autopilot. We have patterns and habits that have served us in the past. We assume … Continue reading The things that hold us back from living intentionally →

Why is it beneficial to be aware of everything flying around in your head? Your thoughts create your experience of the world. Your thoughts shape what information you pay attention to and how you interpret that information. And your thoughts produce feelings in your body. When we're aware of our thoughts, we can be more … Continue reading The benefits of looking at everything flying around in your head →

Welcome to 2023! It's that time of year when many people start to reconnect with their desires. Some people avoid setting New Year's Resolutions because they don't believe they'll successfully achieve them. Some people are super excited about setting New Year's Resolutions and set out to achieve big things, or many things, throughout the coming … Continue reading Why New Year’s Resolutions fail and what we can do about it →

Many of the people I coach are, or share similarities with, Myers-Briggs INTJs or Enneagram Type 5s. (I am an INTJ and Type 5, myself.) I'm often working with people who are very goal-oriented and intellectually focused. Thus, our conversations are frequently about what's on their mind, their actions (or lack thereof), and the results they're creating (or not). I … Continue reading Why feelings deserve our attention →

I was talking to a friend recently who mentioned she was struggling with deciding on her goals. She was scared because she didn't know what she might discover if she took the time to reflect on what was truly important to her. I started to imagine what I might be doing if I was in … Continue reading Fearing what you may discover →

Back in February, I wrote in a newsletter how I had started time-boxing my schedule again. Well, it's now September, and that practice is still going strong. I recently wrote a Twitter thread on three of the benefits of time-boxing. Today, I wanted to focus on how I time-box my schedule each week. 1. I decide on my … Continue reading My weekly time-boxing process →