Author: Tyler Suzuki Nelson

Feedback is a dance, not a delivery

Delivering feedback can be an intimidating experience. If this is your first time giving this person feedback, you may worry about what might happen. Maybe they'll take it harder than you intended for them to. Maybe they'll react poorly to the feedback. And even if you have given this person feedback before, you may be … Continue reading Feedback is a dance, not a delivery →

Why relationship problems persist and what we can do about them

Have you ever been in a relationship where a small problem snowballed into a much larger one? You're not alone. This is a widespread pattern. Here are some examples of problems people commonly face in their relationships with partners, friends, coworkers, etc.: You need more personal space. They don't help when you need them. They … Continue reading Why relationship problems persist and what we can do about them →

The things that hold us back from living intentionally

When you live intentionally, you get more of what you want, have more meaningful relationships, and feel more fulfilled. So what's holding you back from being more intentional? Often, it's hard to live intentionally because we spend so much time on autopilot. We have patterns and habits that have served us in the past. We assume … Continue reading The things that hold us back from living intentionally →

The benefits of looking at everything flying around in your head

Why is it beneficial to be aware of everything flying around in your head? Your thoughts create your experience of the world. Your thoughts shape what information you pay attention to and how you interpret that information. And your thoughts produce feelings in your body. When we're aware of our thoughts, we can be more … Continue reading The benefits of looking at everything flying around in your head →

Six ways to increase the value of what we learn

I've always got a lot of books, podcasts, articles, etc., on the go. It's a habit I've picked up over many, many years. And generally, this is seen as a good habit. We're learning things. It feels like we're improving and getting better. And there certainly are worse things we could be doing with our time. But … Continue reading Six ways to increase the value of what we learn →

Why New Year’s Resolutions fail and what we can do about it

Welcome to 2023! It's that time of year when many people start to reconnect with their desires. Some people avoid setting New Year's Resolutions because they don't believe they'll successfully achieve them. Some people are super excited about setting New Year's Resolutions and set out to achieve big things, or many things, throughout the coming … Continue reading Why New Year’s Resolutions fail and what we can do about it →

Why feelings deserve our attention

Many of the people I coach are, or share similarities with, Myers-Briggs INTJs or Enneagram Type 5s. (I am an INTJ and Type 5, myself.) I'm often working with people who are very goal-oriented and intellectually focused. Thus, our conversations are frequently about what's on their mind, their actions (or lack thereof), and the results they're creating (or not). I … Continue reading Why feelings deserve our attention →