Who is Tyler?
Hey, I’m Tyler!
I’m a life coach and software developer located in Vancouver. I have a Bachelor of Science Honours in Integrated Sciences from the University of British Columbia (UBC), completed a web developer bootcamp with CodeCore College, and am a certified life coach through The Life Coach School.
I’m introverted, independent, and improvement-oriented. (If you’re into personality typing, I’m an INTJ according to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator and 5w6 according to the Enneagram.)
For years, I’ve been an avid reader (my favourite books include The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Atlas Shrugged, Azumanga Daioh, Daring Greatly, Getting Things Done, and Radical Acceptance) and a consistent writer (I blogged regularly throughout high school and university, and more recently, I’ve also started writing an email newsletter).
I was a teaching assistant at UBC and CodeCore College. More recently, I’ve been a moderator in Building a Second Brain and a facilitator in Linking Your Thinking.
I also spend my time dining out, playing board games, running, lifting weights, and playing volleyball. Click here to see what I’m up to right now!
Fear and anxiety don’t need to be the norm.
I’ve been a big reader since I was a kid. I love learning, and books are one of my favourite ways of learning new things. Part of this came out of a tendency to prepare for everything. I felt a sense of control that could protect me from experiencing failure if I did enough to prepare ahead of time (and if I failed, it was probably because I didn’t prepare enough).
As it turned out, this translated well into my school life. I was always organized and driven to succeed, so I did well in high school and university.
Unfortunately, this drive to learn everything I could and plan for potential problems sometimes led to conflicts elsewhere.
I became an idealist who experienced everything in a black-and-white manner. And I often showed up in pessimistic or cynical ways as I searched for potential problems that I saw as threats.
I could be challenging to work with as I became frustrated when people didn’t work according to my standards, and I could quickly become very intense during disagreements.
I had chronic anxiety from trying to control everything. At work, this showed up because my performance wasn’t as transparent or clearly defined as it was in school. And I would often dread using public transit or attending social events because I never felt safe in such unpredictable environments.
Fortunately, years of coaching, self-development work, and therapy have helped me greatly.
My anxiety has improved; I’ve opened up to the many shades of grey, and I’ve learned to stop trying to control everything.
This means I am present more often, spend less time trying to fit in, and am more comfortable with uncertainty. In other words, I find myself experiencing more peace and happiness and less fear and worry.
Why do I love working with introverted thinkers?
Introverted thinkers are on a mission for mastery. They love learning things and developing a deep understanding of what fascinates them. Their desire for structure often leads them to develop systems, tools, and habits that support their learning.
Although they don’t enjoy small talk, they are fun conversation partners. They love having deep conversations–often on a wide variety of topics. And their allegiance to the truth means they’re willing to question and explore things assumed to be true. They don’t let their emotions cloud their judgement, making dialogue fun even when discussing something you may not see eye-to-eye on.
Introverted thinkers always bring interesting, unique perspectives, whether exploring new ideas or challenging the status quo. Many of my closest friends are introverted thinkers, and it’s always exciting to hear what’s on their minds.
How can I help?
Coaching has helped me navigate shame, identify standards I was treating as facts, and stop taking self-sabotaging actions. While coaching isn’t some magical switch that allows you to turn off judgments or uncomfortable feelings, it did transform how I experience my life.
It can help you, too. I’ve seen its impact on the people I’ve coached.
Coaching with me will radically change how you converse with yourself. You’ll be empowered as you reveal all the options you already have but have been hidden from view in your blind spots. And you’ll stop holding yourself back–not only from producing the work you love but also from living a life full of joy and self-confidence.
We may also look at productivity, knowledge management, habit formation, or goal-setting tools. You will learn how to apply those tools effectively to your own life to aid you in mastering the things that are most important to you.
If you don’t want to work together right now, but are interested in a free weekly newsletter written for introverted thinkers, you can sign up for my newsletter here: